When watching the television shows about how that girl met that boy and then become that couple, it seems quite simple. The idea of dating seems easy to manage without any complexities of who should say what; but, honestly, that is all make-believe and Hollywood speaking. In reality, while dating should be easy, it rarely is. The first date will often have people rushing about, sweating, terrified of creating the wrong impression irrespective of your age or dating history. The question is: how do you make it through the first date without seeming a complete fool? Surely, there must be some guidelines? This article provides you with those guidelines and will share some top tips on what not to mention on a first date.
1. Money
The first item to avoid at all costs is that of money. Many people feel that money is one of the most important factors in life, but this does not mean you should push this belief on another person who may not share your opinion. In addition, raising the issue of money may lead the person to believe they are only interested in individuals with a strong financial background. This may be true, but you don’t want anyone to know that this early on in the relationship. For a first date, the only time money should be intentionally discussed is when paying the bill; otherwise, leave this topic discussion for much later in the relationship.
2. Past Relationships
The majority of past relationships tend to present with bad memories or depressing tales, so why would you wish to regale your new love interest with this on a first date? The saying goes that misery loves company, but it is unlikely that this situation can be attributed to a “misery loves company” concept. When embarking on a new relationship you will want to show how light-hearted and exciting you can be, not focus on the turmoil in your previous relationships. In addition, a bad reflection of your past love life may make the new flame wonder whether pursuing something is worthwhile or if it will lead to more bad memories for the two of you. Keep the past in the past and do not bring it up until much later on when you are more comfortable around the other individual.
3. Politics
While it is beneficial to discuss the events of the day and indicate your interest in the world’s politics, it may be necessary to tread lightly in this arena. New daters on a first date may be better off to touch on the topic if impossible to avoid the issue otherwise avoid politics altogether, especially if the other individual is of a different political stance. This may be a worrying feature as people who are interested in politics but from different political viewpoints may not have a good relationship; but don’t you want to make it through the first date? By avoiding this topic, it is possible to speak about various other aspects of your personalities and get to know those traits before dealing with politics.